Let's Talk About Emotions

Let’s talk about emotions.

Back in the day, I had a mentor who would say, “You can only go as high as you are willing to go deep.” Another perspective is that you need to feel it to heal it. Crying provides healing and a release of built-up pain and emotions, even if we are crying over a sad song or movie, related or unrelated. The message being this.

If you are going through a dark night of the soul, deep loss or grief, or purging old pain and suffering, not only is it ok to go deep and to feel it all deeply and acknowledge the pain, but it is also the way out or through to the brighter day.

After such experiences, we can come out feeling lighter, with more clarity, and a sense of peace and belonging. We have not only transformed our pain but also transformed within. The deeper we are willing to go and experience these emotions, the more we can experience the polarity of these emotions, such as joy and love.

Today’s society likes to play in the shallows. We suppress, dissociate, or mask our emotions out of fear, shame or embarrassment or as a means of avoiding discomfort. Because let’s face it feeling it is not fun, by anybody’s standards.

Sometimes we aren’t ready to feel it, it’s too deep, and that’s fine, everything has its time. However, if we never feel it, it builds up and stays in our system until something comes along that cracks us open and forces us to feel it all - we lose the option to suppress it.

If this is you, know that you are feeling so much more than grief over a loss; you are feeling all the past pain and regret and loss and trauma that remained unprocessed. And I am here to tell you it’s going to be ok. You will find on the other side a completely different person, more able to love and live and experience joy than ever before.

The caterpillar transforms into a butterfly by going through a similar process. But what nobody mentions is the fact that the caterpillar liquified before it was transformed. It breaks down all the old constructs to step into its new life. This can translate into losing physical things or people around us and beliefs or unworthiness programs that no longer serve us.

This is the process of transformation. Sometimes we ask for it, sometimes we don’t, but the transformation is profound.