You've left. The relationship, the job, the environment that was making you unwell. You've done the hard thing. You're out. And now — inexplicably — you feel worse. A flatness. A restlessness you can't name. A low hum of wrongness that sits underneath everything. Maybe something is wrong with me, you think. Nothing is wrong with you. But something very important is happening.

There is that moment! Where suddenly everything seems wrong. It can come from a moment of clarity where you are simply, finally, done — done with a toxic relationship or job, done people-pleasing or rescuing, done with a mindset that no longer fits. Or it can happen to you. A job loss, a break up, a moment where the world around you falls apart. What's important is not the what or the how. But the what now. And what comes next is something nobody really talks about — the corr

You walk into a room and you know. Something has shifted before a word has been spoken. You feel the weight of what someone is carrying before they've told you what it is. This is not your imagination. This is not weakness. This is a genuine and remarkable capacity. And it comes with a depth of compassion that is equally real. But in the quiet moments — away from the identity and the community — there is sometimes something else

By Karie Rohrlach · Counsellor & Psychotherapist · Adelaide & Online You're not the one who falls apart. You're the one people call. The one who shows up. The one who knows what to do when everything goes sideways — for everyone else. You've been doing it so long it doesn't even feel like a role anymore. It just feels like who you are. And in many ways, it is. You are capable. You are reliable. You are genuinely good at holding things together. That's not nothing — it's actua

By Karie Rohrlach · Counsellor & Psychotherapist · Adelaide & Online There is a moment in everyone's life where life hits like a train. One minute you are functioning. The next, you are overwhelmed, dysregulated, and unable to reconcile what is happening inside you. You can't think straight. You don't recognise yourself. You may feel disconnected from your surroundings, distrustful of others, or lost in a confusion that has no words. It might be triggered by something signifi

You know there's more. But traditional therapy hasn't quite hit the mark. Something remains — a feeling you can't quite locate, a knowing you can't quite voice, a block you can sense but can't identify. Like a scratch you can't quite reach. You're not going crazy. And you're not failing at therapy. You might simply be someone whose experience doesn't fit entirely within the conventional frame.

By Karie Rohrlach  ·  Counsellor & Psychotherapist, Zanti Consulting  ·  Adelaide & Online You feel responsible for everyone else's happiness. You try to protect the people around you. You put their needs first — almost automatically, almost without thinking — because that's just what you do. You tiptoe. You watch what you say. You try not to rock the boat, not to upset anyone, not to ask for too much. And you are exhausted. You're lost. Overwhelmed. Confused about how you go

By Karie Rohrlach  ·  Counsellor & Psychotherapist, Zanti Consulting  ·  Adelaide & Online There's a particular kind of person who comes to therapy having already tried the conventional route — and found it wanting. Not because the therapy was bad, but because something important was missing. The practical tools helped. The insight was valuable. And yet there was a dimension of their experience — something to do with meaning, purpose, or the deeper question of who they actual

By Karie Rohrlach  ·  Counsellor & Psychotherapist, Zanti Consulting  ·  Adelaide & Online Most people who eventually find their way to therapy have spent a long time trying to manage on their own first. They've read the books, done the journalling, talked to friends, maybe tried a few apps. And still something isn't shifting. The same patterns keep showing up. The same feelings. The same sense of being stuck at a particular edge they can't quite cross alone. That's usually w

There's a particular kind of exhaustion that settles over you when you're battling both depression and anxiety at the same time. The anxiety keeps you revved — heart racing, mind spinning, that relentless hum of something is wrong that never quite resolves. And then the depression pulls you under — flat, heavy, disconnected, wondering if any of it is even worth the effort. If you recognise yourself in that, I want you to know something: it makes complete se nse. And it's far

By Karie Rohrlach · EMDR Therapist & Psychotherapist, Zanti Consulting · Adelaide & Online If you've been carrying something heavy for a long time — a memory that keeps surfacing, a response that feels bigger than the situation warrants, a sense of being stuck no matter ho w much you understand about yourself — EMDR therapy might be worth knowing about. It's one of the most well-researched trauma therapies we have. And in my experience working with clients, it's also one

Article EP Tribune 7 November 2024 Dealing with sudden loss When it comes to sudden loss, particularly tragic loss, we grieve differently.  When processing the loss of someone who has had a long and painful illness, we can experience guilt over our feelings of relief and desire to get back to living a ‘normal’ life.  But with sudden loss, the experience of grief can express itself differently. The nature of the loss and the nature of our relationship with the person we have l

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